There are three primary stages of herpes. The first or initial stage can include flu like symptoms such as headaches and muscle soreness. Often there will be intense itching in the genital area where the outbreak can be expected. These early symptoms can last for up to a week and indicate the best time to attempt to abort the outbreak.
The second stage of genital herpes is the active phase where small herpes bumps or sores will be present on the mucous membranes of the genital area. A larger single sore or blister is also possible. The outbreak and surrounding area can be extremely painful at this time. Excessive redness and swelling are common. It is best to keep the outbreak clean and dry and to wear loose clothing (and cotton underwear!). There are several remedies for relief including breaking open a wet black tea bag and applying the leaves to the exposed outbreak. A few drops of tea tree oil in olive oil can also help reduce pain and swelling.
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